Each meal we gathered, usually at a big table with Grace
before the meal. Following Breakfast, a
different person was designated to present a devotional. A great way to start the day. We
were warned early on to drink lots of water and protect ourselves from the sun.
We were asked what are expectations were for the upcoming trip. One of the grain farmers hopes to see the circle completed. They want to see the people on the other end benefitting
from the CFBG projects. Some expressed
fear of the magnitude of what we were going to see, concern that we would not
be able to comprehend what we would see, others look forward to seeing the love
and appreciation they have in their hearts, we want to see the hope the
projects bring. One is concerned that we
don’t know and we will not understand.
We are advised to listen, ask good questions, to be ready to accept
their gratitude. We expect this
experience will change us; we will not be the same people when we come back. We understand there will be a blessing and a
burden resulting from this experience.
The aim is to help them help themselves. We are assured that the places we are going
are quite safe but the politically based insecurity, although turned around by
the new Prime Minister, is not totally turned around. We are warned to be street smart, to lock our
suitcases, to show respect, reciprocate, to expect respect in return. Hope is that we will see beauty beyond the
poverty, to look at the beggar as a person.
We are here as guests of our partners. Be gracious receivers. We are all biased. We are encouraged to look at what we have in
common. To be open minded as we listen. To look at what we have in common.
Monday Morning there was no mercy for anyone now on
Ethiopian time (7-10 hours earlier that Canadian time!) Quality programming brought the group to
life. A consulting firm called Desert
Rose help people who come into the country to understand the country. Martha’s background is in Social-Anthropology
quickly made the topic very relevant.
·
Eighty plus classes or groups make up
Ethiopia. Very diverse culture.
·
The colors of the flag of Ethiopia have
different meanings. Martha said some say
the Green is for the Holy Spirit, the Yellow for Peace and the Red for
Sacrificial Blood.
·
There are three important pieces to the
Ethiopian culture:
1. Relationships:
§ Ethiopians
love to be around people.
§ Family
is very important (they don’t want to be alone)
§ Family
goes beyond the nuclear family. For
example, responsibility extends to cousins.
If financial help is asked for, obligations may have to be postponed
until next month to help you cousin. This applies to education, medical help, immigration and more.
§ There
are lots of orphans in Ethiopia. Adoption
is accepted.
§ People
live in close family compounds.
§ There
is not a good system for emergency police, ambulance. Rely first on family, then on neighbors.
§ Network
is important. They make sure they have
many people in their network.
§ It is
not important what you know, it is who you know.
§ You
can only depend on your network to get the services you need! (Martha gave two life threatening examples in
her own life)
§ 1st
responders in any crisis are the neighbors
§ The
population of Ethiopia is 102 million ((2016).
Canada, by comparison was 36.2 million in 2016. Canada is 9 X the land size of Ethiopia!
§ Of the
41million children in Ethiopia, only 5 million are able to eat well.
§ There
are many displaced people, refugees.
§ There
are 16 million hungry (the government says 8 million)
§ Diplomats
have their own community network
§ Tourists?
§ Why
would expats want to live here?
§ People
want to go to a better life
§ For
outsiders to build a new relationship, difficult
§ Outsiders
are called Farage (people from the outside)
·
Four rules will help build relationships
1. Smile: If you smile, you are accepted by them. A smile is a door opening to build a new
relationship.
2. Greeting: How to acknowledge another person. We deserve to be greeted. Greet everyone every morning. It is very important to recognize another
person’s space.
We
had demonstrated to us the ‘shoulder bump hand shake, the three part cheek
kiss, the hand shake touching the right arm with the left hand, all with
appropriate eye contact and head position’.
3. Smile
and greet
4. Greet and
smile
§ Invest
time to make social visit. Family,
friends, neighbors.
§ Weddings,
funerals, sickness, birth, holidays-all times to make visits, to celebrate
life.
2. Status. Power in Culture.
§ Hierarchy
vs Equality
§ Customs:
·
The man slaughters the chicken or goat
·
Inheritance is to the male child or children
·
There is an attempt to change the society. For example, 50% of the cabinet are women
§ The
Five A’s of Position in the Ethiopian Society
·
Ancestors- eg King or Queen, Indian caste,
Somali
·
Achievement- graduated, appointed to a position
·
Age-older people have more respect
·
Assignment-government appointment
·
Appearance is important-(how I want to
represent myself to you). Clean shoes
are important!
§ Criticism
throws Ethiopians off. It is painful. People may become defensive or aggressive.
§ Evaluation
is stressful for senior management
§ It is
hard to receive criticism, not easy to take
§ Here
it is exceedingly hard to manage, the culture makes it difficult. Everything is taken personally. It becomes part of who they are. The Ethiopian must be respected.
·
The Expat says, ‘I will respect you when I see
results.’
·
The Ethiopian says ‘I will give you results
when I am respected'.
§ If not
greeted, the Ethiopian feels disrespected.
3. Holidays
and Celebrations:
§ Religious vs Social
§ Christian: Finding the cross; Christmas Jan 7th, Epiphany:
Baptism of Jesus, Easter
§ Muslim: There
are two official holidays in Islam: Eid Al-Fitrand Eid Al-Adha. Eid
Al-Fitr is celebrated at the end of Ramadan (a month of fasting during daylight hours), and Muslims
may invoke zakat (charity) on the occasion
which begins after the new moon sighting for the beginning of Shawal (Google)
§ Desert Rose provides training for religious
groups to understand each other.
4. Social Events
§ New Year, Childbirth, Baptism, 1st
Birthday, Graduation, Weddings, Funerals
§ Financial Burden: For example, a wedding may include 1000
guests with 200 invited to a luncheon.
(They say the main reason for divorce in Addis is the wedding!)
§ Why is celebration important?
·
Escape from the Hierarchy
§ In Ethiopia, there is strong distinction
between formal vs informal
·
If you want to
talk to someone, have coffee, not a meeting.
Coffee is a green light for discussion.
·
In an informal
setting, it is easier to give feedback.
Poverty vs
Sufficiency:
We then played a game where we were given a card
representing a person in Ethiopia. We
were each given a small amount of money.
We were asked to pay our necessary bills. Many of us did not have enough to pay our
bills. To make matters worse, we had to
draw cards and deal with unexpected situations usually requiring money. Some of us had been given extra money so you
know what happened. We had to call on
neighbors for help.
This brought up topics like:
·
Independence vs Inter dependence. Everyone is
helping.
·
Present vs the Future
·
Investing?
·
Networking
·
Resources
·
To do something bigger, if everyone
contributes, we can do bigger projects
·
Money-invest in network, land and resources
This was a very valuable morning, one that we would think
about many times over the duration of our travels to communities where we
visited CFGB projects.
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